21 Things I've Learned In 21 Years!
Happy Tuesday babes! Is it too soon to start drinking or should we wait until Friday? As you can tell by the title of this blog post, I turned 21! I’m truly blessed to be another year older, and living my best life. 2020 was a year for a lot of people, and I had my fair share. At the end of the day I’m so grateful for everything, the good and the bad. It helped me grow into the new gal I am today. And I love her. So I wanted to share 21 things I’ve learned over the years.
1. Family is my everything !
After living in Charleston for a year I truly realized that I hate living more than an hour away from my family. They are the most important people to me! Also you know when they say “you don’t just marry him, you marry the family”, oh sis I thought they were wrong.. Oh no. They are 100% correct.
2. There’s more to life than working & saving. While I think saving money is SO important, so please don’t think I’m saying that it’s not. There is a healthy way to save AND spend money. It is important to have goals for your savings and rainy days, but girl if you want the $5 Starbucks, get the damn Starbucks. And don’t let anyone tell you, that you can’t. I’m no expert. Trust me. I have good and bad days. But at the end of the day, count your experiences not your cash. You’ll never gain those moments again. Keep saving, but don't let that stop you from living.
3. I love humidity .
This is a weird one I know but I had to share! I love how the humidity makes my hair and skin feel. My skin is naturally dry, so the humidity did wonders haha!
4. It’s okay to have a small circle of friends.
I have a very small circle of those I’d call my close friends. I used to be the girl who wanted 100 friends, and honestly It’s not worth it! Or there’s 10x more drama. We ain’t got time for that.
5. Separating laundry.
Who even has time to separate their laundry by colors, darks, and whites. I just throw them all in and hope for the best. The day something happens is the day I’ll start to question that theory.
6. Always make time for your grandparents.
Especially now that I’m older, I value that time so much now that I can remember! I wish every day my papa was still around, he was my best friend! Obviously I don’t remember this, but I took my first steps in his hands! I love love hanging out with my grandparent, they always have the best stories!
7. Accept change.
I was the girl who had her whole life planned out. Then I hit 19 and that got exhausting & ever since I started to let go of plans, I’ve felt so much happier and less anxious. Your life will not always stay the same, people change, your daily routine will be different and the more accepting you are, the easier it will be. I love change, I love feeling new emotions, new habits and new routines! I switch up my routine a lot! It's kind of my favorite to do haha.
8. Everyone is gonna judge, so just do what makes you happy.
This is so true! I still struggle with this to this day, but I get better every day. I learned (especially in my divorce), that people will always have a say in everything you do. Sis, I mean everything. So, post what you want, say what you please, and do what makes you happy! Who cares what everyone has to say.
9. Celebrate everything. Even small moments.
I am the queen of celebrating everything, I celebrate when I hit an extra 100 followers, or another month with a significant other. Who cares! Celebrate your dating, engagement and wedding anniversary. Throw a party for your dog, girl what I'm saying is life is to damn short to not celebrate these moments!
10. Designer is cool but so are other things.
Hear me out, I want a Neverful just as bad as the next girl, however I think experiences at this age are more important. I think my Neverfull purchase will come after children haha. Of course that's just my opinion, in no way am I saying I don't think anyone should have one but at 21 I want to save my money for a new house haha, or a Disney trip. Let me know below what you think.
11. Pray hard and love harder.
Give every person grace and a little more love. This world is scary and mean, be kind to one another and give everyone the love you want in return. My mom and I always say to give more grace, you never know why someone is rude, or has an attitude. It's easier to believe that they are going through something hard and don't have an outlet.
12. Do your own research.
Stop voting for who your parents do, stop thinking like everyone else and do your own research. Nothing bothers me more than when people vote for whoever their parents do. Now, obviously if you agree with the same values and views, don't let me stop you. However, don't just put who they put on your ballot because you're lazy. Black Lives Matter is also not a trend to just follow if you want to keep followers. Do your research, find out the facts and then make your statement. Don't just follow others in the trend and post whatever.
13. Don't be afraid to start fresh.
I know it seems scary, but sometimes getting a fresh start is the best option for yourself. It seems "selfish" but you gotta do what's best for you. Never apologize for making yourself happy!
14. Your dream job will still have bad days.
It doesn't matter if you have the best job in the world, there will still be good and bad days, and that's OKAY! I hate when people say you'll never work a day in your life with your dream job. All things take work, time and energy to be successful. I am over the moon in love with being a cosmetologist, but it has good and bad days! Let me know if I should dive more into this.
15. Support your girl gang and small businesses!
I know I love when people support my small shop, sure you can go to some big company and buy from there, but shopping small means the world to others! Small dreams become big when you support. Support isn't also buying, it's sharing a photo, liking that post and telling friends. I'll leave some small shops down below!
16. Travel as often as possible.
Life is too damn short. Take the cheap flight and go explore! I have a goal to travel to 4 new places a year. Even if you're just exploring the state you live in, there's so many places in Colorado I have never been to, and I've lived here for 20 years lol! Live life and travel often.
17. Know your worth.
Never settle baby girl. You are worth all the love in the world, you deserve to be given the best, you are never an option. You're number one babe and don't let anyone treat you like you aren't. I'm one DM away, never hesitate to reach out!
18. Be slower to 'Yes'
I'm sure saying yes is easier than no, trust me I get it. However, I have been making it a habit to slow down and actually think about if I can commit to what I'm saying yes too. It's so easy to just quickly say, "yes I can volunteer this weekend", and then come the weekend you realized you don't have time, and then you continue to get in the same habits. I learned this from the book I'm reading "Girl Wash Your Face", by Rachel Hollis.
19. Stop dreaming and start doing.
You are capable of every single thing you set your mind to! So stop saying "I want to open a restaurant one day", go and do your planning, save your money and DO IT. Life is scary, but we only get one chance, so do everything your heart desires.
20. Get off social media.
I'm not saying forever, but sometimes a break is so nice! Most weekends, I try to be off my phone as much as possible and be with my family! Social media can be so positive and negative. All you see is highlights, sometimes people forget that we are real behind the screens, and the comparison game is so annoying. When you start getting into those negative vibes, log off, go see nature and live in the moment.
21. It's okay to not be okay.
This is one I'll aways struggle with, but continue to grow with. 2020 was my best and worst year all in one haha. I got divorced, moved back home, and had to start all over. It has been a ball of anxiety, but I'm blessed I got the chance. I'm grateful I have my amazing family, my baby boy Oliver (my doggo if you're new here haha), and I have become someone I love so much. I am so happy with the new life I have created and built, it is okay to cry and be sad. We all go through so much and we deserve a cry session.
If you made it this far, bless your soul haha. Thank you for following along the last 2 years of blogging, I'm grateful for the community I have and all my internet besties! I hope you all have an amazing day and keep growing babe.